Thursday, May 11, 2006

Likes & Dislikes

Our minister (Unitarian Universalist) just returned from a sabbatical in Thailand. He spent seven weeks meditating and learning to meditate with the equivalent of the Grand Masters of meditation.

His story was interesting, but what I remember most were his parting words: if you want to clear out all the interference in your daily life, stop "liking" and "disliking."

Wow. I found myself pondering for the rest of the sermon the implications of removing likes and dislikes from my thoughts. From early childhood we ask and are asked, "what is your favorite color/food/flavor of ice cream/class/sport/etc.?" It seems to me that we form images and opinions of ourselves and others based on what we like and dislike. The absence of such structure seems freightening and a little like redefining the world.

I decided to ask him after the service what he thought of my concern. He agreed with me, but said that removing those thoughts, or their importance, allowed us to get to what is real in life. Those thoughts are acutally getting in our way of experiencing something profoundly different.

I still haven't decided how I feel about this, but have no problem trying to reduce the "dislikes" in my life. I feel that is much less freightening than removing the "likes". I will keep you posted on my progress.

Oh, yes, how does this relate to technology? I somehow imagine that by removing the likes and dislikes of our daily thoughts, we float free like a hot air balloon taking off. As our view of the world changes we move closer to a different and mythical virtual experience we seem to strive for in entertainment. Maybe even experiencing a completely different kind of life.

I challenge all to think about this concept without adding any judgment and whether you like it or not. Let me know what you "think."

3 Comments:

At 1/06/2007 11:41 AM, Blogger CMAR said...

Dave .... interesting concept. Someone reminded me years ago that the opposite of "love" is not hate but ... indifference. And, vice versa. Both are emotions and the opposite would be no emotion. Seems somewhat akin to "like" and "dislike". Is it possible that our emotions prejudice our judgement? And. of course, what is "judgement" all about anyway?

Jerry

 
At 3/29/2008 1:21 PM, Blogger Dan said...

Thanks Dave, this gave me much to think about. It really resonated with something I have been mulling over for a couple of years; that is, sometimes are dislikes keeps us fighting futile battles that do us no good in the long run.
For example, there are lots of things about globalization that I don't like, but my dislike for it will do nothing to stem its inexorable spread. It seems much more effective to set my dislike aside and creatively look for the opportunities where I can work to leverage the new realities to make a positive difference in the world.

Dan

 
At 3/31/2008 12:35 PM, Blogger bluespace1 said...

I feel I have made little progress on removing the "likes" and "dislikes." I am particularly interested in working on the "dislikes." The challenge is creating the habit of remembering to move the thought process toward something constructive when the "dislike" thought begins. Any ideas of how to help?

 

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